Thursday, January 7, 2010

Ugh!

We have been having issues with Jayden and gas since she was born. She has trouble sleeping at night because she is grunting and fussing. Her old pedi kept saying it was normal and she would grow out of it. After 3 months of no sleep for either of us I was fed up and changed her doctor.

I took her in for her appointment with her new doctor and really liked her. She seemed a lot better than the old guy and seemed to agree with me that her gas wasn't normal. She told me that her gas wasn't a condition, it was a symptom. Her theory is that Jaydens sleep trouble is what's causing her gas. She gave me a bunch of handouts on sleep and told me to try that for a couple weeks and come back if it doesn't work.

I was really excited to try all of these methods she gave me and read all of the handouts as soon as I got home. All of the handouts told me to let her CIO! I know some people agree with this and I don't fault them for that, every child is different. I just know that MY baby is too young for this and she is too stubborn to respond to it.

Moms are taught to hold their newborns all the time, never let them cry, and it's ok for them to fall asleep in your arms. All of a sudden my LO turns 3 months and the doctor is telling me everything I do is wrong. Holding her till she falls asleep is training her to not be able to fall asleep on her own, and feeding her at night is bad because it will train her to wake up to eat.

I just feel all of a sudden like everything I am doing is wrong and I am setting up my child for failure.

3 comments:

  1. yea what is UP with these doctors??? they all must be reading the same outdated textbook on parenting methods... I literally almost decked the woman when she brushed me off and kept saying "oh you just need to learn to distract yourself, just let him cry, all he wants to" with this cheery voice like this was the end all be all advice. ugh!

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  2. I just found your blog and I wanted to chime in.

    My baby girl is 6 1/2 months old. I was like you in that I couldn't stand the idea of CIO. I didn't want to put my child through that! BUT, two weeks ago we finally gave in and tried it for naps. (She is a good night sleeper - naps horribly) My pedi finally just told us that she was going to have to cry - and it worked. I went in every 8 minutes at first, then 10. When I went in, I didn't pick her up. Just let her know she was fine.

    Now, I don't think I would have done it before 6 months. She was just too little! But it really worked - she naps now and naps in her crib.

    I am not trying to come to your blog and tick you off! I just wanted to share my story.

    Your daughter is so adorable!

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  3. oh you totally did not tick me off! I appreciate any advice. We actually ended up trying it, and it didn't work. We are open to trying it again, Would you mind giving me some more info on how you did it? Oh and do you have a blog?

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